Saturday, April 04, 2009
Smell. I'm always astonished that this even needs to be said. Body odor is good. Of course every smell is not good to every person, but that's the point. How someone smells is probably the best indicator of weather or two people are going to hit it off. Some guys like it more raunchy and deep, some like it a bit cleaner, but no matter what your taste, perfume and deodorant is never helpful in sniffing out the situation. We are animals with a very long past evolutionary history. We developed learning to assess a situation by smell. My first partner told me that he picked all his partners by smell. At the time that seemed new to me, but now I can tell exactly what he meant. Smell can convey so much about a person... mood, health, sexual readiness... not to mention good old fashioned horniness. A person will smell differently if they are anxious or relaxed, happy or sad, stressed or relaxed, the list goes on.
Don't get me wrong, cleanliness has it's place, but this current trend (especially among young men) of spraying that ridiculous Ax body spray all over is completely at odds with the goal of getting laid. It covers up your natural body odor to the point that you may as well be impotent. I guess straight men think that women like it because they so often wear that crap too. We are all such victims of marketing. It wasn't until advertising agencies told us that we all stank that we started obsessively scrubbing our skin raw in the interest of hygiene. It has had the opposite effect. Obsessive showering and scrubbing with soaps and perfumes has caused many skin aliments over the years. To counter all those skin aliments, they then started to sell us all kinds of drugs to 'fix' the problem.
this is not just a gay thing. Straight men can tell by the smell of a women if she is receptive or not.
I tend to go to bars where detectable perfumes are not allowed. It's pretty funny to see some guy try to go to a bar where the real men hang out only to be told that they smell like a girl, so they can't come inside. that's usually all it takes to break them of that perfume habit. the other thing that can break someone of the deodorant and perfume habit is experiencing a really good 'pit-job. If you never had someone really take some time to really lick your pits, you don't know what you're missing. It's great weather you are the one getting the pit-job or giving one, but I can tell you this... if you get a mouthful of aluminum, the first lick will be the last.
So give it a break! try taking a whole weekend without taking a shower... wow, a whole two days without a shower. Let your body odor attract the person who is right for you. You may be surprised at how well it works.
I guess it bears repeating that I'm not talking about good basic hygiene. I mean, if you smell like shit that's a different issue. Or, if you don't brush and floss your teeth then I doubt very many people will want to be around you.
For the love of God... even if you have to take a shower everyday, throw that fucking perfume away and save the deodorant for that big job interview or the big company meeting and let people get a whiff of your natural manly smell!